L.O.V.E - again?

Love - should i give it another chance? 

He was always there, but i was too busy to notice him. H, my best friend. But, again, I am scared, i am reluctant .. Confused and puzzled.

And its not just about a relationship now but an official commitment. Yes, an engagement. May be it would help me getting over O completely .. may be, i am already over him. I just don't know.. NUMB STATE.

34 love for me ..:

nZ! said...

Falling in love with your best friend isn't good..

Unless and until you both confess it to each other..

Nostalgic said...

He has confessed it, nZ. I am confused, i don't know if it would work..

ReeBz said...

confused :S

bollywoodstylediaries said...

Are you over O? rebound?? true love?? who knows - hope u do whats best for you:-)

Nostalgic said...

I am over O, yes i think so..
But hey, hang on, here i'm not talking about a relationship only but an official commitment .. about, getting engaged. Bound.

MissTerious♥ said...

my advice:
give yourself a bit time alone....feel the pains and cry million tears......n then move on...go for it with the light heart.
the pain pops up later and disturb the relations made in haste...

may Allah bless u

Blasphemous Aesthete said...

Shouldn't I be saying Congratulations Urooj...
Giving it a chance is all up to you. I'd just say, if you're still in doubt, toss the coin.
I've got a good feeling about it. :D

nZ! said...

Getting engaged? Go ahead and make it official then, falling in love with your best friend might not be the best idea, but spending your whole life with them surely sounds awesome!

Sonshu said...

Omg. the best friend thing, can get complicated you've gotta lot to think about!

Sapphire said...

I think you need to take some time off and think for yourself how you feel about this guy: whether he is unconsciously the rebound or if he really means more to you as a friend...since he has already confessed his feelings for you & he is your best friend, you can talk to him openly about your state of mind :) Just sleep over it and don't fret around...or be clear that at this point, you don't want a proper engagement but would rather see how it goes before taking that plunge coz you dont want to mess up the friendship.....just be honest!!
Trust me - that way you wont lose your friend ever :) And don't say 'yes' out of self-pity/pity/you don't want to hurt him n all that - no one wants that!! It wont be fair on any of u

WarmSunshine said...

congratulations.... do you think you can handle it? With friends, things are simple; once spouses, things become complicated... if u know him very well then go for it... and good luck babe :)

Ria said...

Dont jump into something if it seems like a rebound. And be sure of not getting any thoughts of O if u choose to embark on a relationship with H. All the best!!

Estell said...

Oh deary...I hope it all works out what ever you do choose. :]

V said...

Best Wishes Gal!!!

Scribbling Girl said...

Just be sure ur over O....because rebounds are disastrous....and especially with best friends....I have been thru it and I so know what stupid decisions they were ....they never work for neone.....But engagement sounds different....If ur brain says it can work ....go ahead talk to family and stuff and decide....and then let heart come in because ur in a vulnerable stage....give ur heart a rest for a while.....and if friendship translates into love...best....notin like having best friend in ur partner...its bliss....and i am sure my sweetheart will make the best decision :)

Meher....all out to explore..!! said...

are you sure?coz if you get with him,the best frienship could be at stake.But then if you feel for him,if your happy with him,and he understands you more than anybody else,you should go for it.
cheers..!! :)

Harini said...

Are you completely over O? You must be more than 100% sure about it. As if you arent you might end up ruining the relationship and also the friendship. But if you are sure and it isnt rebound it will turn into a beautiful relation as friends becoming lovers is a very beautiful thing :). Hope you can make the right decision gal :).

Neeha said...

Be sure before making any commitments..Make sure u got over your past completely..
Else you will suffer and miss a best friend too..
All the best..

Disguise said...

Falling in love with your best friend can be the best thing while it lasts, there'll be no one in the world who knows you as well as your best friend does, with him things will be on another level of happy, but then, if it ends up ...ending...then you're screwed.
I honestly think you should give it a chance because you never know what might come out of it. :)

rantravereflect/ jane said...

well o may be orgasmic but is always the Other guy. Get Over him! but h is Honest, Humble, Hilarious, Hopeful and He's ya man- ma vote goes to H

A Girl Who Believed In Angels said...

No advices, so suggestions even...
Just wishing u all the best.... and hoping you find the perfect one.. luv,

Zee said...

if its an official commitment, yes, go for it...wish u all the best..u would forget O with time, everything would be alright...

but i wont advice an unofficial relationship..it would be like making the same mistake again

Jack said...

Nostalgic,

Falling in love on rebound has it's own drawbacks. Do sit down and think it over with unbiased application of your mind. Do your really love him? What kind of relationship did you two share in the past? Has he cofessed his love to you just to give you a shoulder to lean upon or has his behaviour been the same always? Commit only once you are fully satisfied with answers you get. Best of luck.

Take care

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Bea said...

well i suggest give it sumtime.. eventually things will be clear..

Mademoiselle Deva said...

It's a hard choice to make. You have to know if you really want it. If you love him go for it if no... think twice.

R said...

o0o0o0o that's cool. Give it sometime. Seeing your best friend in a different light - you'll actually love it. What's better than your guy being your best friend? good luck!

D.A said...

hmm..classic! :P

Jeweliot said...

do you like H .. as in.. do you see your future husband in him? you mentioned he's a best friend. what's better than being with your best friend!! it should be fantastic.

but you just got out of a serious relationship too, have to consider that. you can't just get into another relationship or get engaged to someone else so soon - have to give your friendship the time to turn into a relationship that'll lead you guys to get happily engaged. you have to get engaged happily, not in haste.

have to be fair to H too. have to be fair to your own heart too. spend some time alone with H.. for a month i guess... and see where it goes.. and just be positive and happy. life is beautiful, i'm sure something fab will turn out for you.

Nas said...

I would second what most people have said here previously.

'Getting over' someone or something takes tim. && unless you are at peace with your loss, you'll always drift back to it.

Becoming initmately close to a best friend has it's ups and downs. But like you said, you're considering a life-long commitment and not just a 'lets see how long this lasts'.

Best of luck to you :).
Whatever decision you make, I hope it brings you happiness and joy.
=]

Lonely Perverted Soul said...

I went thru wid it...things didnt work out.... And then i ended up losing my best friend...

CrazyGirl said...

i read the post about O.. i didn't know so much happened while i was busy studying. how r u holding up? i really hope ur ok .. and i know exactly how u feel in this post. it's happening to me too and i don't know what to do. for now i made it clear to him that im still not over HIM .. but he's willing to stay and wait. soo .. my life is pretty confusing. i reallly hope u figure out what to do ..best of luck! miss u and keep in touch, stay strong honey!

Som said...

Hi,

It is a catch 22 situation ... Falling in love with your BF is the best thing that can happen, But one should be sure that one is in LOVE. If the spark isn't there then ... We all make compromises in life .. I wish I will never have to make it at least in Love .. and I wish no soul has to do so .. because it the last thing that has been left pure ....

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